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In 2010, ... and nearly 20% reported being bullied on school property 亚裔的孩子们,大概是因为身材小的缘故。被bullied的百分比就更大一些。据新唐人报道,
在纽约亚裔社区,孩子们在学校里受到霸凌的现象到底如何呢?今年暑假,8名大学生在实习期间,选择了反霸凌作为研究课题。
霸凌现象到底离我们有多近?最近,一个由暑期实习生组成的团队,对108名纽约华埠的在校生,进行了调查。结果怎样呢?
超过62%的学生都到过语言攻击,受到网络霸凌的学生占56%。在接受调查的108人中,有近70%的学生目睹过霸凌事件,但举报的不足1/3。对比全美,每年有超270万学生遭遇霸凌。
而这八名实习生,用了两周的时间最终选择反霸凌作为研究课题。
实习生辅导员梅丽娜:〝经过一番筛选,他们在一系列的课题中,选择了霸凌问题,因为在亚裔社区没有得到足够重视。〞
在这些实习生中,大二学生陈伯伟就是霸凌的受害者,从幼儿园一直到9年级,约有10年时间。
实习生陈伯伟:〝我受到过有言语上的和肢体上的霸凌。在我寻求帮助之前,霸凌给我生活带来阴影。我的情绪变化异常,一会儿感到愤怒,又马上情绪低落。那段时间,我感到非常的痛苦。说实话,因为受到霸凌,感到自己根本就没有享受过童年乐趣。〞
后来在心理医师的帮助下,陈伯伟渐渐走出阴影,自己也学会了搏击技能,增加了信心。
实习生陈伯伟:〝如果你受到霸凌,不要认为是应该的,你没有什么不对,不要认为是你的错。随着时间的推移,一切会改变。只要坚持、努力,不要放弃,学会坚强。如果需要,告诉你信任的成年人,告诉你信赖的朋友。〞
陈伯伟这次与团队合作,帮助更多和自己有同样遭遇的年轻人。在社区健康活动中,他们以寓教于乐的方式,宣导反霸凌,得到不少学生的共鸣。
学生林咏诗:〝我认为应该说出来,不管是家长、朋友或是其他人,不要自己一人承受。〞
学生Sophia Mui:〝他们首先要冷静下来,可以去看心理医生,采取不同的办法,消除心中的怒火。〞
实习生们还共同制作了宣传网页和短片,让年轻人可以远离霸凌,他们每个人都在影片中,担当了角色。 在被霸凌以后如何应对呢? (摘自:应对校园霸凌 - 华裔学生在美国遭群殴 http://blog.sina.com.cn/s/blog_5b4d191b0102dvds.html)
有效的应对方式应该是这样的:
- Tell them to stop. (告诉对方停止这个行为)
- Walk away. Do not let them get to you. If you walk away or ignore them, they will not get that satisfaction. (逃离现场)
- Protect yourself. Sometimes you cannot walk away. If you are being physically hurt, protect yourself so that you can get away. (保护自己,不提倡正面反击对方)
- Tell an adult you trust. Talking to someone could help you figure out the best ways to deal with the problem. In some cases, adults need to get involved for the bullying to stop. (告诉老师或者你信任的长者)
- Find a safe place. Go somewhere that you feel safe and secure like the library, a favorite teacher’s classroom, or the office.(找到一个安全的地方)
- Stick together. Stay with a group or individuals that you trust. (和信任的人在一起)
- Find opportunities to make new friends. Explore your interests and join school or community activities such as sports, drama, or art. Volunteer or participate in community service.(寻找新的朋友)
他们也很重视被欺凌者的心理状态,最重要的是以下三点:
- Do not blame yourself. It is easy to question whether you are the problem. But no matter what someone says or does, you should not be ashamed of who you are or what you feel. (不用责备自己,不是你自身的问题)
- Be proud of who you are. No matter what they say, there are wonderful things about you. Keep those in mind instead of the disrespectful messages you get from the people who are bullying you. (要为自己感到骄傲)
- Do not be afraid to get help. Sometimes it helps to just talk to someone who is not personally involved. Teachers, counselors, and others are there to help. Seeing a counselor or other professional does not mean there is something wrong with you. (不要羞于去寻求帮助)
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